My mother used to say I was the boldest shy girl she’d ever met. I’m just realizing how those two sides are expressed and how much they are inter-connected. I like to refer to the shy one as vulnerable, and the bold one as bad-ass. The vulnerable one is open to the experience of self and others—all of it. The bad-ass one sets boundaries to protect the vulnerable one, by giving her a voice that can say “no” or “stop” or “that hurts.” Both sides are strong, precious and valuable. Together they write the story of a healthy, balanced woman, who feels safe within herself.
Judith Frizlen is a supporter of mothers, creators and those striving to author their own lives.