- Take time to imagine your family culture in detail. Relax. Breathe. Trust. Allow. Co-create your vision with the help of the entire universe. There are visible and invisible helpers everywhere!
- Remember rhythms; they give structure, space and healthy breathing to your days, weeks, and seasons of the year.
- Pay attention to what you want, not to what you don’t want. Whatever you look for, you will find and magnify with your attention.
- Be open and willing to learn. Life is full of lessons. Be a fearless learner and you will become calm, confident and capable of handling whatever comes along. That’s what your child needs most: the model of an evolving human being.
- Your child wants to know how to get along in life. Show him or her how. Communicate clearly what you want through your thoughts, actions and spoken words (in that order). Avoid too much talk, it leads to the child shutting down and not listening.
- When making decisions, if you choose input, ask for no more than two or three opinions from known and trusted sources. Then decide and stay the course until you decide otherwise.
- Recognize states of hyper or hypo vigilance. Strive to stay in the middle, the optimal zone. When you veer in either direction, recognize it and adjust accordingly. Your child will align with you.
- When you hold your child too close, you cannot see him or her. Step back to observe your child and you might be surprised! There is an innate program for growth and development.
- Going away and coming back home builds security in a child, trust in a world that is good. Parenting’s goal is your child’s independence; take age-appropriate steps toward it, lavishing lots of love whenever your child returns to you.
- If you feel like you don’t have enough time, pay attention to your time management or take something off your calendar. Breathless and busy are signs of imbalance. Time is a precious resource! Take care of how you manage it.
- The days might be long, but the years are short. Your child spends about twenty years living in your house, but your relationship continues much longer. Seize the opportunity to teach your child values, skills and balance while you can, so you can reduce regrets later.
- Don’t forget to have fun! Laugh a lot, be grateful for everything, especially what annoys you. There is always a little bit of light, of humor, of joy, even in the darkest day. Get really, really, really good at finding it.
